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*[[Let it go]]. In the immortal words of the Eastenders script-writing collective, “[[Leave it, Phil. He’s not worth it|LEAVE IT, PHIL. HE’S NOT WORTH IT]].”
*[[Let it go]]. In the immortal words of the Eastenders script-writing collective, “[[Leave it, Phil. He’s not worth it|LEAVE IT, PHIL. HE’S NOT WORTH IT]].”


===[[Your nose]]===
 
*[[If it gets up your nose]], it’s ''your'' problem, not his.
===[[You]]===
*[[If it gets up your nose]], [[People you don’t like can still have a point|he’s probably got a point]].
*[[Let he who is without sin cast the first stone]].
===[[Your book]]===
*First question: [[cui bono]]?
*[[Don’t talk your own book]]. Assume others are talking theirs until you know otherwise.
*Value people who don’t talk their own book.
*Insiders have an interest in making what they do seem hard.
===[[Your self]]===
====What you've got====
====What you've got====
*[[Don’t be selfish]].  
*[[Don’t be selfish]].  
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*Use your resources. [[You can’t take it with you]].  
*Use your resources. [[You can’t take it with you]].  
*[[Be useful]].
*[[Be useful]].
 
*Don’t judge. [[Let he who is without sin cast the first stone]].
*[[Don’t talk your own book]].
====Confidence====
====Confidence====
*[[Back yourself]].  
*[[Back yourself]].  
*[[There are other fish in the sea]].
*[[There are other fish in the sea]].
*[[Leave it on the pitch]], [[Don’t leave anything on the table|not the table]]. (see [[do your talking on the pitch]].)
*[[Leave it on the pitch]], [[Don’t leave anything on the table|not the table]]. (see [[do your talking on the pitch]].)
====Mental space====
====Mental space====
*[[Go off the grid]] — sometimes.
*[[Go off the grid]] — sometimes.
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*[[Find a different way home]].
*[[Find a different way home]].
*[[Write the music you want to hear]].
*[[Write the music you want to hear]].
====[[Your nose]]====
*[[If he gets up your nose]], it’s ''your'' problem.
*[[If he gets up your nose]], [[People you don’t like can still have a point|he’s probably got a point]]. Even Nigel Farage.
===Others===
*First question: [[cui bono]]?
*Assume they’re talking their own book until you know otherwise. Value people who don’t.
*Insiders have an interest in making what they do seem hard.
*Challenge. Require an explanation. What a professional can’t explain, she doesn’t understand. If she can’t explain it, it’s probably bullshit.
====The team====
*Disregard rank. Seniors must earn your respect. You must earn it from juniors.
*Your team. They get the credit. You take the responsibility. Deal with underperformance privately: that’s your job. Never sell them out.
===Disobey stupid rules===
===Disobey stupid rules===
*[[Walk on the grass]]. Fuck ’em.
*[[Walk on the grass]]. Fuck ’em.
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*[[It’ll do]].
*[[It’ll do]].
*[[They’re more scared than you are]].
*[[They’re more scared than you are]].
*Challenge. Require explanation. If he can’t explain, he doesn’t understand. If he makes you do something he doesn’t understand it, it’s probably bullshit.


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Revision as of 20:38, 18 August 2018

Maxims for a happy life.

The pitch


You

What you've got

Confidence

Mental space

Learn

Your nose

Others

  • First question: cui bono?
  • Assume they’re talking their own book until you know otherwise. Value people who don’t.
  • Insiders have an interest in making what they do seem hard.
  • Challenge. Require an explanation. What a professional can’t explain, she doesn’t understand. If she can’t explain it, it’s probably bullshit.

The team

  • Disregard rank. Seniors must earn your respect. You must earn it from juniors.
  • Your team. They get the credit. You take the responsibility. Deal with underperformance privately: that’s your job. Never sell them out.

Disobey stupid rules

Complexity and order

References

  1. If you said, “or girl,” you’re being that guy. (and/or girl, as the case may be.)