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Now the [[JC]] has no axe to grind about marriage — by all means, get hitched or don’t; see if I care — but more to the ''concept'' of what marriage is meant to be, at the outset: a ''permanent [[merger]] of social and economic interests''. It is a [[commitment]]. The combination of resources for the expected betterment of both. | Now the [[JC]] has no axe to grind about marriage — by all means, get hitched or don’t; see if I care — but more to the ''concept'' of what marriage is meant to be, at the outset: a ''permanent [[merger]] of social and economic interests''. It is a [[commitment]]. The combination of resources for the expected betterment of both. | ||
Now it may be that, along life’s rocky road, things don’t work out, but if the aspiration to permanence is to mean anything, one must at least put one’s [[skin in the game]]. That | Now it may be that, along life’s rocky road, things don’t work out, but if the aspiration to permanence is to mean anything, one must at least put one’s [[skin in the game]]. You get the ''upside'' by risking the ''downside''. That you may be disproportionately wealthy, or poor, you should deal with in your [[due dilly]] — [[aka]] “courtship” in the old days — ''before'' making the decision to commit. Is this person a gold-digger? If your suspicion is “yes”, or “unproven, but not out of the question”, then ''don’t get married''. | ||
To look at it this way is the regard a prenuptial agreement as a desire ''to have one’s cake and eat it too''. It is to ''refrain'' from putting [[skin in the game]];<ref>Rather, in this regard, like appointing a [[process agent]]: okay; most [[Metaphor|metaphors]] don’t bear close examination.</ref> to refrain from drilling the holes in your longboats to stop your men running away.<ref>As, allegedly, did William the Conqueror upon making landfall at Pevensey. This knowledge has been with me since I was about five, and my authority for it is the Ladybird book about William the Conqueror, and as a result it might be entirely false. But it is a good metaphor. </ref> | To look at it this way is the regard a prenuptial agreement as a desire ''to have one’s cake and eat it too''. It is to ''refrain'' from putting [[skin in the game]], wanting instead the benefits without accepting the costs;<ref>Rather, in this regard, like appointing a [[process agent]]: okay; most [[Metaphor|metaphors]] don’t bear close examination.</ref> to refrain from drilling the holes in your longboats to stop your men running away.<ref>As, allegedly, did William the Conqueror upon making landfall at Pevensey. This knowledge has been with me since I was about five, and my authority for it is the Ladybird book about William the Conqueror, and as a result it might be entirely false. But it is a good metaphor. </ref> It makes your men ''more liable to run away''. If the idea was that, having little alternative, they should stand and fight — and, god willing, prevail — then offering a cost-free alternative seems like ''asking'' for trouble.<ref>To the evident disappointment of those who commissioned the survey, it seems there is little evidence that a prenuptial agreement leads to more divorce.</ref> | ||
===Analysts at the [[Vampire Squid]]=== | ===Analysts at the [[Vampire Squid]]=== |